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Now, the majority of the events surrounding my posting entitled “THE UNLAWFUL CUSTODY AND VISITATION PROCEEDING IN ONONDAGA COUNTY OF MICHAEL ROTONDO REGARDING HIS SON. (PART 12)“, were overshadowed by the fact that the police had stopped making reports for my visitation violations. And to proceed with the description of subsequent events, I really need to describe the cause for my son’s mother refusing my visitation on June 13, 2017.

On June 11, 2017, my son (and myself as well) had received a sunburn while my son was in my care, and my son’s mother had refused my visitation for that same June 13th because I wasn’t providing ‘answers’ to her about the sunburn. (It’s an effect of the sun, and may be prevented through the application of sunscreen; and  I was told that it had already been applied onto him while he was in the care of his mother)

Also, for the following text messages, we had a tandem bike, and he had nothing on his feet because his sandals went missing at the park; There wasn’t anything I could do about that as I didn’t have a second pair handy.

Here are the texts:

Angela Gasparini <Angela Gasparini>
Sun, Jun 11, 2017 at 6:26 PM
To: Mike Rotondo
SONSNAME is sunburned pretty bad
Just so you know
And I put sunblock on him this morning
So it washed off? Or he was out there really long? I don’t know

Angela Gasparini <Angela Gasparini>
Sun, Jun 11, 2017 at 6:26 PM
To: Mike Rotondo
But it’s not good

Mike Rotondo <Mike Rotondo>
Sun, Jun 11, 2017 at 6:26 PM
To: Angela Gasparini <Angela Gasparini>
He wasn’t sunburned when he was here.

Angela Gasparini <Angela Gasparini>
Sun, Jun 11, 2017 at 6:27 PM
To: Mike Rotondo
Well he is now
And he didn’t drink water today?

Mike Rotondo <Mike Rotondo>
Sun, Jun 11, 2017 at 6:29 PM
To: Angela Gasparini <Angela Gasparini>
I’m not sure about the water. He drank when he was thirsty.

Angela Gasparini <Angela Gasparini>
Sun, Jun 11, 2017 at 6:30 PM
To: Mike Rotondo
He cane home with a full water bottle
And if he’s out on a 90° day, an adult (You) would need to make sure he’s drinking enough water

Angela Gasparini <Angela Gasparini>
Sun, Jun 11, 2017 at 6:31 PM
To: Mike Rotondo
. He had none and he’s burned.

Angela Gasparini <Angela Gasparini>
Sun, Jun 11, 2017 at 6:33 PM
To: Mike Rotondo
So he’s in pain from it
And hasn’t had water
This is not ok
I will be taking pictures
He’s burned

Mike Rotondo <Mike Rotondo>
Sun, Jun 11, 2017 at 6:34 PM
To: Angela Gasparini <Angela Gasparini>
The water that you send in a water bottle isn’t the only water (or source of hydration) available to him. I’m not going to
make him drink if he’s not thirsty that isn’t good for him. While he was here she didn’t appear sunburned or say anything
the lead me or anyone else to believe that he was sunburned.

Angela Gasparini <Angela Gasparini>
Sun, Jun 11, 2017 at 6:34 PM
To: Mike Rotondo
Just fyi

Angela Gasparini <Angela Gasparini>
Sun, Jun 11, 2017 at 6:38 PM
To: Mike Rotondo
Ok
I picked him up at 6
And he didn’t get the burn the last half hour he’s been home
And yes, on hot days if he didn’t drink water he can get dehydrated
So yes, you do have him drink water
And if you plan on not keeping him from getting burned and dehydrated He won’t be going over there
As the supervising adult, you have to make sure those things are under control
So you didn’t hand him drink water? You didn’t reapply sunblock? Neither of those? And he was outside all day in and out of water?

Mike Rotondo <Mike Rotondo>
Sun, Jun 11, 2017 at 6:41 PM
To: Angela Gasparini <Angela Gasparini>
The current visitation order is enforceable.

Mike Rotondo <Mike Rotondo>
Sun, Jun 11, 2017 at 6:43 PM
To: Angela Gasparini <Angela Gasparini>
Also, I’m taking SONSNAME to see fireworks this holiday season. I’ll be letting you know the days.

Angela Gasparini <Angela Gasparini>
Sun, Jun 11, 2017 at 6:45 PM
To: Mike Rotondo
No you won’t
You are incapable
I Don’t trust you can take care of him and you didn’t answer my questions
When you send him home in this condition and don’t answer my questions?
Dont make demands at me
They are not happening
I didn’t agree to them
I am taking pictures of his burns

Mike Rotondo <Mike Rotondo>
Sun, Jun 11, 2017 at 6:49 PM
To: Angela Gasparini <Angela Gasparini>
I have one overnight per week. If he doesn’t want to stay overnight after the fireworks he doesn’t have to as far as I’m
concerned. And over the past few years because you have him on the fourth, I’ve been taking him to multiple other
displays to compensate for that, so if you still want him for the fourth I’m going to want to take him to other displays,
becides what I’m always entitled to with the overnights.

Angela Gasparini <Angela Gasparini>
Sun, Jun 11, 2017 at 6:55 PM
To: Mike Rotondo
Still not answering the questions about today?

Angela Gasparini <Angela Gasparini>
Tue, Jun 13, 2017 at 2:08 PM
To: Mike Rotondo
I’m assuming your phone isn’t working? I still haven’t gotten answers from Sunday. So hopefully this reaches you. I am
picking up SONSNAME from school today. He has an appmt.

Mike Rotondo <Mike Rotondo>
Tue, Jun 13, 2017 at 2:11 PM
To: Angela Gasparini <Angela Gasparini>
I’m expecting to see him. It’s my day I can take him to the appointment.

Angela Gasparini <Angela Gasparini>
Tue, Jun 13, 2017 at 2:13 PM
To: Mike Rotondo
Nope I have it
I want answers about Sunday

Mike Rotondo <Mike Rotondo>
Tue, Jun 13, 2017 at 2:15 PM
To: Angela Gasparini <Angela Gasparini>
If I don’t have him 3:17 today I’m calling the police. I don’t have to do anything besides that if you refuse my visitation.

Angela Gasparini <Angela Gasparini>
Tue, Jun 13, 2017 at 2:19 PM
To: Mike Rotondo
You neglected SONSNAME
You are refusing to answer questions about it
Call them
I have proof of your neglect

Angela Gasparini <Angela Gasparini>
Tue, Jun 13, 2017 at 2:19 PM
To: Mike Rotondo
You are unwilling to answer me? I am seeking legal advice on this

Mike Rotondo <Mike Rotondo>
Tue, Jun 13, 2017 at 2:20 PM
To: Angela Gasparini <Angela Gasparini>
I didn’t neglect him, so it’s impossible for you to have proof that I did.

Angela Gasparini <Angela Gasparini>
Tue, Jun 13, 2017 at 2:21 PM
To: Mike Rotondo
Ok
But you can’t give answers?

Mike Rotondo <Mike Rotondo>
Tue, Jun 13, 2017 at 2:22 PM
To: Angela Gasparini <Angela Gasparini>
I’m under no obligation to give you any farther information about anything whatsoever; you’re being unreasonable.

Angela Gasparini <Angela Gasparini>
Tue, Jun 13, 2017 at 2:24 PM
To: Mike Rotondo
I will let the proper authority know this

Angela Gasparini <Angela Gasparini>
Thu, Jun 15, 2017 at 12:36 PM
To: Mike Rotondo
You actually are legally obligated to give me answers. That’s what joint custody is. With all the unanswered questions
and your refusal to answer them, that is a problem.

Mike Rotondo <Mike Rotondo>
Thu, Jun 15, 2017 at 12:40 PM
To: Angela Gasparini <Angela Gasparini>
It is not a problem. The fact that we both have legal custody means that we both have equal say regarding what we think
is best for SONSNAME. You have no reason to believe that I’m negligent with SONSNAME. I received a sunburn on Sunday
myself.

Angela Gasparini <Angela Gasparini>
Thu, Jun 15, 2017 at 12:43 PM
To: Mike Rotondo
and your refusal to discuss things are a problem
Ask a lawyer

Mike Rotondo <Mike Rotondo>
Thu, Jun 15, 2017 at 12:45 PM
To: Angela Gasparini <Angela Gasparini>
What have I been unwilling to
discuss with you?

Angela Gasparini <Angela Gasparini>
Thu, Jun 15, 2017 at 12:45 PM
To: Mike Rotondo
I sent him over with sunscreen on and some in his bag that never made it home
Did you not reapply? He didn’t drink water when he was clearly outside the whole day on a 90° day. That’s neglect. He rode his bike home with nothing on his feet.

Angela Gasparini <Angela Gasparini>
Thu, Jun 15, 2017 at 12:46 PM
To: Mike Rotondo
You better come up with answers

Angela Gasparini <Angela Gasparini>
Thu, Jun 15, 2017 at 12:46 PM
To: Mike Rotondo
What mental illness were you diagnosed with?

Mike Rotondo <Mike Rotondo>
Thu, Jun 15, 2017 at 12:49 PM
To: Angela Gasparini <Angela Gasparini>
SONSNAME was not nor has ever been neglected in my care.

Mike Rotondo <Mike Rotondo>
Thu, Jun 15, 2017 at 12:54 PM
To: Angela Gasparini <Angela Gasparini>
I expect to see SONSNAME tomorrow you have no
justification to prevent it and preventing me from seeing SONSNAME is in violation of our order.

Angela Gasparini <Angela Gasparini>
Thu, Jun 15, 2017 at 12:56 PM
To: Mike Rotondo
what mental illness have you been diagnosed and treated for?

Mike Rotondo <Mike Rotondo>
Thu, Jun 15, 2017 at 12:59 PM
To: Angela Gasparini <Angela Gasparini>
My medical history isn’t relevant so stop asking about it.

Angela Gasparini <Angela Gasparini>
Thu, Jun 15, 2017 at 1:03 PM
To: Mike Rotondo
really? His father’s medical history isn’t relevant? It absoluty is. I want answers. And the answers about the sunblock
and water. I’ll be waiting.

Mike Rotondo <Mike Rotondo>
Thu, Jun 15, 2017 at 1:05 PM
To: Angela Gasparini <Angela Gasparini>
What you were asking about my medical history isn’t relevant. You haven’t asked any questions about the sunblock or
water so I would like to know what you think you’re waiting for?

Angela Gasparini <Angela Gasparini>
Thu, Jun 15, 2017 at 1:10 PM
To: Mike Rotondo
Go back and look
Last time I’m asking
Did you not reapply the sunblock? Why didn’t he drink water? How long was he outside dehydrating on a 90° day without sunblock or water? Why did he ride his bike home with no shoes?
Medical history is relevant, ask a lawyer, ask his lawyer, ask anyone
Your refusal to answer will only look bad on you, and it will come out either way
So you have an untreated mental illness, could be genetic, not irrelevant.

Mike Rotondo <Mike Rotondo>
Thu, Jun 15, 2017 at 1:13 PM
To: Angela Gasparini <Angela Gasparini>
I told you that he lost his sandals and because of that it invalidates all your questions so we’re defaulting to following the
court order for visitation. You’re also in violation of our custody agreement and you are subject to being punished for that
too.

Angela Gasparini <Angela Gasparini>
Thu, Jun 15, 2017 at 1:15 PM
To: Mike Rotondo
So still refusing? I am saving all these. thank you

Mike Rotondo <Mike Rotondo>
Thu, Jun 15, 2017 at 1:16 PM
To: Angela Gasparini <Angela Gasparini>
What I do with him on my days is none of your business.

Angela Gasparini <Angela Gasparini>
Thu, Jun 15, 2017 at 1:21 PM
To: Mike Rotondo
Not when he comes home like that
And it is my business
So you clearly can’t answer the questions. I’ve be asking since Sunday. If it wasn’t a big deal, you would’ve answered. Keep it to yourself then. But he’s not going over there for you to neglect him. I’ll give you the Price is the sunblock and sandals. I have no further questions.

Mike Rotondo <Mike Rotondo>
Thu, Jun 15, 2017 at 1:25 PM
To: Angela Gasparini <Angela Gasparini>
I don’t have to answer any of your questions. The court order is binding and it is crystal clear that the problem here is
you.

Now, if a child is being harmed while visiting with a parent; there is an emergency proceeding available through Onondaga County, where someone can get same day service for an order of protection; meaning that if there’s a court order for visitation and it needs to be suspended immediately, you have the means to be heard by a judge and get that visitation suspended that same day but, my son’s mother didn’t do this; and it’s simply because she couldn’t. It was just a sunburn, and I was sunburned too; sometimes people get sunburns. What she did instead, was hold my visitation hostage in an attempt to coerce me into saying something that could be used against me.

I couldn’t say “yes I forgot to put sunscreen on him”, because that could then be use to stop my visitation. And considering the way that the court was handling my matters, I’m sure they would have loved the opportunity to take a sunburn, which doesn’t show neglect, and “find” that it does show neglect; so they could then take my visitation away on record. If there was no such risk of such incrimination, then why was she trying so hard to get me to say that I didn’t put sunscreen on him?

For the rest of the summer I made sure we applied sunscreen often, and I also made him wear a shirt too. Another sunburn could possibly substantiate the loss of my visitation rights on record although as it seems, a proceeding for the suspension of visitation isn’t truly necessary, if it is the wishes of the court for it to be suspended.

So then because I didn’t allow my son’s mother to coerce incriminating testimony from myself, I didn’t see my son on Fathers’ day (June 18, 2017); which I’ll write about in next week’s posting.

I guess treating someone like they shouldn’t have custody/visitation of their child, until they show something that can be used to substantiate it, isn’t something that can always be depended on.

7 comments

  1. Dude… It’s 2019, not 1950. You need to update your knowledge base regarding repeated application of sunscreen (it’s on the bottle), increased risk of skin cancer as a direct result of sunburn, and proper hydration. If I were this child’s mother, I would be angry, as well.

  2. Well it sounds like a typical dad thing to forget about stuff like this. It doesn’t sound like he suffered acute kidney injury from dehydration or severe third degree burns. I’m assuming he looked OK to you and was able to make his needs known. I just wish you could have some time with your son now, as that would be best for him. He is untimatly the one who loses in this situation.

    1. I’ll eventually be able to spend the rest of my life re-getting-to-know my son; I otherwise try not to think about the effects of me not seeing him. Thank you for your comment.

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