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Now in my Court ordered visitation, it says (paragraph “7” page two) that “All holidays and birthdays shall be shared and/or alternated as the parties mutually agree”; And while I know that this same paragraph “7” reads to only speak to the child’s birthday; I remember that during the proceedings that set fourth this same October 28th, 2011 order, it was considered that the birthdays of the parents’ would be considered visitation time; and this is further supported by the fact that my son’s mother and I had been following the order in this way since the order was put into effect and, we were also following the order in this same way without any further or subsequent discussion… Therefore, birthdays are shared per the court order; Paragraph “5” was followed similarly. I didn’t draft the order so its wording isn’t my fault…

Here are the texts regarding this posting. Keep in mind that the court had already dismissed my motion to enforce the court order onto my son’s mother at this time:

Mike Rotondo <Mike Rotondo>
Wed, Jul 5, 2017 at 10:37 AM
To: Angela Gasparini <Angela Gasparini>
So Friday we’re planning on taking him to a park that’s an hour and a half away, so we’re going to need until 9, as it says
on our order for Friday’s. Saturday is my birthday, and we want him at 3 for dinner; I’m also taking him to fireworks after
as I had mentioned the other day; this Saturday would be the fireworks I had mentioned for the 8th. I’m going to seek an
additional 24 hours of commitment for each and every additional day that you refuse my visitation from this point forward.
I’m not asking you or expecting you to respond to this message, but I will do my best to make our visitation matters as
unburdening to you as possible.

Angela Gasparini <Angela Gasparini>
Wed, Jul 5, 2017 at 11:14 AM
To: Mike Rotondo
I will be contacting my lawyer
Saturday isn’t your day

Mike Rotondo <Mike Rotondo>
Wed, Jul 5, 2017 at 11:15 AM
To: Angela Gasparini <Angela Gasparini>
It’s my birthday. I told you that the other day. I also said it doesn’t matter for the overnights.

Angela Gasparini <Angela Gasparini>
Wed, Jul 5, 2017 at 11:22 AM
To: Mike Rotondo
I also told you not to talk to me that way
I don’t need a reason why
If you have any kind of threat or think you have the right to do/ say what you do then you contact my attorney
Your birthday is not a holiday
Im not messaging you anymore today
You made me physically sick
Thank you
Havre a wonderful day

Angela Gasparini <Angela Gasparini>
Fri, Jul 7, 2017 at 9:57 AM
To: Mike Rotondo
SONSNAME is feeling very anxious about going to the water park. I told him it’ll be fun a nd he should go. He says he doesn’t
wanna go on big slides or tunnel slides. I said he doesn’t have to. He said you make him go on them and that he’s afraid is them. He asked me to message you and say he doesn’t want to go on them. He’s really not feeling good about it. So he’s asking you not to make him go on anything that makes him uncomfortable. Is that a problem?

Mike Rotondo <Mike Rotondo>
Fri, Jul 7, 2017 at 10:00 AM
To: Angela Gasparini <Angela Gasparini>
You can tell him that you messaged me about it but you can’t arbitrate my parenting time with him.

Angela Gasparini <Angela Gasparini>
Fri, Jul 7, 2017 at 10:02 AM
To: Mike Rotondo
He’s afraid and doesn’t waa t to go
So that’s an issue

Angela Gasparini <Angela Gasparini>
Fri, Jul 7, 2017 at 12:13 PM
To: Mike Rotondo
He doesn’t want to go. He’s having pretty bad anxiety about it. He said all he wants is to know you wont force him on the
slide. I told him he doesn’t have to do anything he doesn’t want to. You make him go on things he doesn’t want to go on?

Angela Gasparini <Angela Gasparini>
Fri, Jul 7, 2017 at 12:37 PM
To: Mike Rotondo
Are you not going to answer me?

Now, is my son going to come to my home for a trip to a water-park, and hear from me that his mother had mentioned to me that he doesn’t want to go through tunnel slides, and I that just don’t care? No! I’m his father, and his father in the conventional sense. If the courts had any cause to take away my visitation and custody by this time they would have already done so. I’m a good dad who recognizes and addresses the feelings of his child.

Regardless, he didn’t show up to go to the water park, and the next time he saw me for visitation he asked if we were going to the water-park on that day. He was very disappointed to hear that we weren’t. This is all in spite of the “anxiety” which his mother had claimed prior.

27 comments

  1. … Okay I’m not sure where to start because there are several things wrong with your argument here. First… you immediately threatened Angela with jail time. You are not in a position to be making threats. The court does not like you and does not recognize your authority…. she does not go to jail just because you want her to go to jail. Second, what was so hard about telling Angela and your son over the phone that he did not have to go on any sort of ride or slide that he didn’t want to? Because I remember when I was his age I was scared of those big slides as well. Wouldn’t it have just been easier to be polite and just accepted him for visitation and said okay to Angela? Finally, your birthday is completely irrelevant and has no standing in the visitation order. Good luck.

    1. You posted: “she does not go to jail just because you want her to go to jail”
      Response: She was violating the court order and I’ve made that crystal clear. It’s really weird how your posts don’t speak to that fact, while I imagine that you’ve read all (10?) of the police reports I have up here documenting it… When you show that you’re so significantly unwilling to follow a court order Hunter, you go to jail.

      You posted:
      “what was so hard about telling Angela and your son over the phone that he did not have to go on any sort of ride or slide that he didn’t want to?”
      Response: She doesn’t have the power to arbitrate my visitation; I decide what rides are appropriate for my son, entirely separately from her. I can do this because of the court order which grants me custody and visitation and, I can’t believe that I feel I have to say this; My son is better for having a father who has custody/visitation of him; Do you have the capacity to consider that possibility?

      You posted:
      “Finally, your birthday is completely irrelevant and has no standing in the visitation order.”
      Response: Do you have any reason at all for saying this? Did you read the posting that you comment is made under? My birthday isn’t irrelevant simply because you say it’s not.

      Thanks for your comment.

  2. Okay I see where your confusion is. Family Court orders are not set in stone. Just as child support payments arent. The order to do those things is to make a reasonable effort to do so notwithstanding extraordinary circumstances….. just because she violated a court order does not mean the police can then grab her and put her in jail that minute. That would only be the case in a criminal court on probation or parole with criminal violations. In Family Court only the judge can order people to jail and the cops have no power to take people to jail on Family Court violations unless the family court judge first gives that order and…like I’ve repeatedly said… the judge does not like you and will not do that so you cannot threaten her with jail because the threats have no weight behind them at all.

    1. I think my threats for jail have weight behind them Hunter. The order itself says “immediate arrest an imprisonment”, speaking to the first time the order is violated.

      The judge “doesn’t like me”? What does that mean and how could it be considered to be anything besides denial of due process? In your opinion Hunter, is due process required for a legal proceeding, or do you feel that it can simply be dispensed with if it interferes with the wishes with the court, the way that SCOTUS does?

      The rest of your comment is taken from nothing more than your contrasting opinion and I’m not taking the time to respond to it I hope you understand. Regards.

  3. Mr. Rotondo…. yes I know it says immediate arrest and imprisonment but the word immediate means after it goes to a judge. And I also said circumstances notwithstanding. And those circumstances are that you were being extremely rude and unreasonable and that is what the judge will say. Due process does not matter as much in family court because of the dynamic nature of families.
    You have to remember the kind of court you are in. It is a totally different system that uses criminal penalties. The judge is allowed to use his or her own discretion. That is what makes them a judge and not simply a scribe who reads off laws. Judges are human beings too and rule accordingly. Thank you for reading and posting my comments I really am seriously trying to help you with this.

    1. You posted:
      “immediate means after it goes to a judge.”
      Response: Then how it is immediate?

      You posted:
      “And I also said circumstances notwithstanding. And those circumstances are that you were being extremely rude and unreasonable and that is what the judge will say. ”
      Response: How are you failing to see what is transpiring between myself and my son’s mother? She can’t hold him hostage the way she does, and do harm onto him and myself the way she does; and I was very respectful to her when I explained to her my considerations regarding that. Again, how are you failing to see what is transpiring between myself and my son’s mother?

      You posted:
      “Due process does not matter as much in family court because of the dynamic nature of families.”
      Response: Do you have any idea what due process is? It could be described as something that prevents judgments from being rendered based on fiction.

      You posted:
      “The judge is allowed to use his or her own discretion.”
      Response: Yes, that’s called judgement or “someone’s judgement”. How, could you possibly conceive, that what my son’s mother is doing does not require that the order be enforced onto her, Hunter? You seem to feel that it shouldn’t; can you tell me why it is that you feel this way???

      You posted:
      “That is what makes them a judge and not simply a scribe who reads off laws.”
      Response: No! What makes them a judge is that it’s their duty throughout the proceeding to be the party that “uses their judgement”, to weed through any requests that are unsubstantiated; to the effect that when my son’s mother’s attorney says that her client shouldn’t go jail for disregarding the court order and doing great harm onto myself and my son because “Mr.Rotondo was ‘being extremely rude and unreasonable'”, the judge then says NO! THAT’S THE STUPIDEST THING I’VE EVER HEARD SHE’S GOING TO JAIL!.

      You posted:
      “I really am seriously trying to help you with this.”
      Response: I’m still failing to see what substantiates your position Hunter; and I’m looking forward to your continued efforts.

  4. Let’s try taking it from the point of view of the judge. Normally you would have a lawyer represent you… but it’s just yourself. That alone ticks off most judges because people without legal training tend to waste the judges and the whole Court’s time by not using legal terms and Concepts and they don’t like taking the time to explain the law to petitioners….that is in a lawyer’s pay grade. So here we have a judge who has to deal with you and then deal with Angela lawyer, as well as your son’s law Guardian. So he’s getting talked at by three different people and one of them is you… a person with zero legal training who feels very emotional and very self-righteous. Their job is to rule in the best interest of the child and nobody else. That is the function of family courts. Their function is not to follow the letter of law to make one of the parents happy and feel vindicated. Your childs law Guardian will be taking statements from your son regarding the waterpark and regarding his wishes. Angela’s lawyer will be trying to skin you alive on the stand and make you look like the worst person in the world because that is Angela’s lawyer’s job. Then there is you… with no lawyer and no training going up there and trying to say that you were unlawfully evicted from your parents house and that you shouldn’t pay child support and you shouldn’t hire a lawyer but that you should still be calling all the shots and having a mother who also has a young baby locked up because they didn’t surrender him at the very second you wanted. The only argument that you have is the wording of the court order which is only one factor in family court it is not the whole enchilada like it is in Criminal Court. In conclusion if you put this whole picture together it looks very bad for you. The judges job is not to follow the letter of the court order every time you file a motion the judges job is to rule in the best interest of your son so that he could grow up and have a happy and productive life. Court orders are guidelines meant to try to keep all three parties in order and to keep the child on the right road to happiness. While undoubtedly you love your son you are also not doing him any favors or your case any favors by trying to think that the whole case revolves around yourself with no lawyer and who is on probation for not paying child support to begin with. The number one thing in courts is credibility and family court is no exception to that. You have no credibility. Your statements about due process and fairness and immediate arrest as said in the court order are only subject to the circumstances I laid out in a previous post.

    1. Anyone who’s familiar with the content of my site knows that none of your comments here have any merit.

      And I hadn’t been kicked out of my parents house until 8 months after I had lost custody and visitation of my son. So it couldn’t have been considered by the court at that time because it hadn’t happened yet.

      You posted:
      “Court orders are guidelines meant to try to keep all three parties in order and to keep the child on the right road to happiness.”
      Response: Then why wasn’t it either enforced or stayed?

      Your comments are becoming spam Hunter.

      1. I don’t think I could have explained it better if I had Alan Dershowitz himself standing right here you obviously don’t want help you’re looking for some sort of ************ session

  5. I just took the time and wrote 2 pages of a perfectly rational explanation why you’re getting treated the way you’re treated and you refuse to post it. I honestly think you don’t want help and I really think you do work for North Korea. You won’t listen to reason you have some other agenda and it’s not your son. And if you’re doing this to get back at Angela it damages the child 10 times more than it damages the parent and I know and I lived it.

    1. Nothing you’ve commented on my site provides any reason for me to change my position on anything, other than the fact that my opinions are different than your own. Your legal arguments are nonsense.

  6. It wasn’t enforced because you are no longer in your child’s best interest you are a drag on him… My parents did the same thing that you and Angela are doing when I was little and growing up in the late eighties and it really ruined my life and you’re ruining his just remember that. And you’re saying I’m spam? Let me tell you something Buddy you were spam the minute you were on the news. You are not news. You make white guys look bad and Millennials look bad.

    1. You posted:
      “It wasn’t enforced because you are no longer in your child’s best interest you are a drag on him…”
      Response: That can’t be considered to be true because the order remained in effect. If “[I was] no longer in [my] child’s best interest”, than whatever facts made that true would have been brought to the court and the order would have been stayed or otherwise voided, so that these same facts could then be acted on, through a judgement.

      You posted:
      “Let me tell you something Buddy you were spam the minute you were on the news. You are not news. You make white guys look bad and Millennials look bad.”
      Response: Then go someplace else. Responding to your comments is interfering with my Sunday anyway.

  7. Alan dershowitz is a professor of law at Harvard University and was on the same news program you were on just the fact that you don’t know that shows your lack of education and legal training.

    1. Hunter,

      Micheal is in his own little world. He’s not going to know who professor Dershowitz is. Unless he was a guest on some alt-right podcast. But of course people like him don’t appear as guests on platforms like the Ben Shapiro Show or Milo. So this is totally out of his orbit. I have a strange feeling Mike spent most of this week venting about razor commercials.

      He can’t really absorb critical explanations and will simply re-iterate ad nauseam or just (not) answer your question by asking another question. No back and forth. The most interesting part is how you politely make some generous legal explanations for him and he calls you spam.

      I think your arguments were sound and very well worded. Meanwhile I have to read his disjointed sentences three times to try and decipher his intention. I feel out of respect for the seriousness of the issues here the contributors to his comments section have actually treated him with a reasonable amount of respect and fairness. Let’s just realize his has a limited scope of ability at this point, while still respecting him as a human being with rights. He’s not dumb, he’s corrosively stubborn and self righteous. Also, the fact that he’s resorted to all caps and bold type shouting for the first time has me concerned.

      Mike,

      I honestly feel most of us posting here would help any way we could but it seems the ball is 100% in your court. Those slides are scary as hell for kids. Even more so than rollercoasters were for me. You should be able to notice that concern in your son and be more capable to soothe those concerns about it. Let him just watch you go down those big tunnel ones! Then laugh your ass off the whole time while splashing all over. – “yeah those are more fun for bigger kids”, – “they weren’t always my favorite either”, – “Maybe you’ll love them someday too”. …That’s parenting Mike. Be a more understanding person. It will improve your outcomes. I think that’s part of what Hunter is saying also.

      Sincerely ,
      Jack Theodore

      1. Jack do you read my content? You have no reason whatsoever to believe that I was going to make my son do something that might traumatize him and also, if you do have any such reason, could you please kindly post it? This would be the place for you to make any such information known… Thanks for your comment.

  8. That doesn’t prove anything by itself just like you indignantly pointing to a court order every time you go to court doesn’t prove anything by itself you think you can streak naked through a stadium five times and then give the broadcaster a cookie and that’ll make it alright sorry people look at the big picture

  9. Do you also understand that everything on the internet lasts forever and that one day your son will be in college and then how are you going to discuss this case with him…whats your ego going to mean then? Is he going to move in with you at 30 and then are you going to evict him? Are you never going to be able to see your grandson or granddaughter because he is going to copy his father and try this again? Is that what you’re looking forward to? Lol. I thought we were supposed to make life better for our children and not have them make the same mistakes we did and be a role-model for them. I bet you won’t post this.

  10. we all knoww where your parents live so we are coming to set it on fire. Say good bye to your parents becauze they will be dead by tomorrow morning.

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