Now in addition to the visitation issues that I was having with my son’s mother, I was having a number of custody issues as well. These custody issues, were a lot harder for me to procure evidence for, because I wasn’t an attorney and I wasn’t familiar with the methods used by attorney’s to produce evidence, such as text message evidence, for use in a proceeding. Meaning I wasn’t aware for the process for subpoenaing text messages but also, the court wasn’t really interested in assisting me in making my case; So much of what I had to support my case were my own records.
What I have here, is a record of a text message conversation between myself and my son’s mother, regarding the medical opinions of doctors and the scheduling of appointments.
Throughout this time, there had been no proceeding, action, or anything; which took away my custodial rights to my son. So I could take my son to see a doctor if I so chose. What we have here, is my son’s mother trying to misrepresent her custodial powers, without explicitly misrepresenting them; as the act of her misrepresenting her custodial powers would have been fraud. She was trying to stop me from taking my son to see a doctor, whom the doctor himself was supporting that my son’s mother was having my son treated for conditions unnecessarily.
This matter had required court intervention in my support.
Here are the messages:
Angela Gasparini <Angela Gasparini>
Sun, Aug 20, 2017 at 6:49 PM
To: Mike Rotondo
Great will do
Mike Rotondo <Mike Rotondo>
Thu, Sep 14, 2017 at 11:31 AM
To: Angela Gasparini <Angela Gasparini>
What day/time will we be picking for the parent teacher conference this afternoon? Also, I got a second opinion for the
palatal expander and I support that now, along with something additional to fix his front teeth.
Angela Gasparini <Angela Gasparini>
Thu, Sep 14, 2017 at 11:42 AM
To: Mike Rotondo
Great! I like where he goes for his orthodontist. I also pay for his dental insurance along with all other medical bills. As far
as parent teacher, you can schedule yours. My schedule always conflicts with yours. So I will do it separate. Where did you get the second
opinion?
Angela Gasparini <Angela Gasparini>
Thu, Sep 14, 2017 at 11:43 AM
To: Mike Rotondo
you’re continuing to take him to appmts without my knowledge?
Mike Rotondo <Mike Rotondo>
Thu, Sep 14, 2017 at 11:47 AM
To: Angela Gasparini <Angela Gasparini>
I emailed his dental pictures to another dentist, she said that he needs a palatal expander, and likely something for his
front teeth. I can take him to see whatever doctor I want to, I haven’t treated him for anything ever. Do you want the email
from this dentist?
Angela Gasparini <Angela Gasparini>
Thu, Sep 14, 2017 at 11:50 AM
To: Mike Rotondo
Of course. I like where he goes. I’ve had no problem with them. I provide everything for him medically and otherwise.
These are not solely your decision.
Angela Gasparini <Angela Gasparini>
Thu, Sep 14, 2017 at 11:50 AM
To: Mike Rotondo
SONSNAME doesn’t need to be put through this just so you can prove a point. He’s already been seen and won’t return for
another six months. They’re just checking for now. And no, you Cannot just do whatever you want, as far as SONSNAME is concerned.
Mike Rotondo <Mike Rotondo>
Thu, Sep 14, 2017 at 12:07 PM
To: Angela Gasparini <Angela Gasparini>
So you’re telling me that I can’t take SONSNAME to see a doctor to get that doctor’s opinion without your permission?
Angela Gasparini <Angela Gasparini>
Thu, Sep 14, 2017 at 12:37 PM
To: Mike Rotondo
I need to be aware, yes
Mike Rotondo <Mike Rotondo>
Thu, Sep 14, 2017 at 12:38 PM
To: Angela Gasparini <Angela Gasparini>
What if you say I can’t talk him to a doctor that I want to take him to?
Angela Gasparini <Angela Gasparini>
Thu, Sep 14, 2017 at 12:43 PM
To: Mike Rotondo
I Don’t know what you are daring l saying
Im not playing word games with you
Enough is enough
I’m working, I can’t do this all day
I’m taking him Monday
Angela Gasparini <Angela Gasparini>
Thu, Sep 14, 2017 at 12:43 PM
To: Mike Rotondo
to DOCTOR_NAME_REDACTED Tuesday doesn’t work for me
And you legally do not have permission to tell the doctor today I can’t handle his appmts
So please stop, I will
Angela Gasparini <Angela Gasparini>
Thu, Sep 14, 2017 at 12:43 PM
To: Mike Rotondo
send you the paperwork
Get a job or something if you’re bored
Harassing me can’t be your time filler
She complains about me taking him to appointments, while she was treating him for things against my wishes. Finally, she’s complaining here, about how she needs to be aware of the medical opinions that I procure, while she was aware of the medical opinion that she is complaining about, because I had told her about it…
Just take the kid to a dentist and let her make the decision! Give SONSNAME a break…you are destroying this poor kids childhood with all this bickering, it really damaged mine when my parents did it, i am the product of divorced parents myself;…..throw at me what you will….
I had braces for three years, and could have more than likely gotten away with no braces at all. My pediatric dentist just wanted to make more money. When my son’s dentist recommended a palatal expander, the reason he gave for this was in-cohesive, and I really felt like I was being sold something. I just wanted another opinion with a cohesive explanation for the palatal expander if the expander was a good idea, which I got without hardly any trouble. It’s a good thing that I care about my son and want to make sure that he’s getting proper healthcare, and if I have legitimate concerns such as “how is this treatment necessary” and I don’t do something about it, does that sound like someone who really cares about their son?
Also, it isn’t my fault that the court failed to enforce their own order, to stop this “bickering” that you’re claiming is (was) destroying my son’s childhood.
Finally, I lost my custody and visitation over a year ago and haven’t seen my son since; So he’s already had a very long “break” from his father who was and still is doing everything he can for him and cares about him very much.
Well, generally it’s the parent making payments and, as appears in this case, is the custodial parent who is the one in charge of making medical decisions for the child. Any disagreements about this between you will likely need to be hashed out in the courts.
And Angela makes an excellent point: how about getting a job?
She was telling me that I can’t take my son to the doctor, even if I was covering the expenses of the visit.
If you don’t mind answering… what is your understanding of what the court would want from you in order to win back some visitation and/or custody?
I was found incompetent; or otherwise “crazy”. This was the findings of the court without myself having been seen by a doctor for several years, and no incidents such as the police having to respond to me “acting crazy”. Further, it’s pretty clear that I’m thoroughly competent. So all together, they made the findings for incompetence in spite of the thorough case that I made in support of what I was seeking (which isn’t something an incompetent person would be capable of), and without any evidence supporting these same findings for incompetence.
That wasn’t done for precision, it was done for affect. You’re now in a situation where you need to either: A.) pay a mental health professional to accompany you during visitations or B.) hire a forensic psychologist to refute the prior diagnosis and supply you with a more accurate one. Regardless, you’ll need a gainful employment of some type. Anything that provides a three-digit dollar amount in a two week pay period will at least reduce tensions and show the court that you’re co-operating.
Being “put into a situation” where “I have to do either ‘A’ or ‘B'” isn’t legal.
I have no interest in showing the court that I’m cooperating I’m doing what I’m doing ‘for effect’ which I have the right to do as a private citizen.
Well it’s true that you don’t have to do either of those things – and I am not a legal expert, so I wouldn’t know – but if you want to regain visitation and custody rights with your son, you are going to have to jump through some hoops.
How is that true?
How can you expect anyone to believe you’re serious about regaining visitation if you’re not even willing to get a job and contribute the embarrassingly small sum of $55/week to support your son?
Micheal,
Does writing “for effect” in quotes reveal possible inner conflict here? Do you really think you are doing the right thing for yourself and your son? I think deep down inside you know how bad you are behaving.
In my opinion is this blog is having the opposite effect than you say you desire. If I was your son’s mother knowing this madness is being written here weekly would assure me you would never ever have any legal leverage in the future. It would be a fine ‘exhibit A’ for any case. You come off as very selfish, defensive, and yes, crazy.
If you wish to pursue future legal routes I would inform your lawyer about this blog immediately. It fully documents your arrogance and lack of compromise. Some of your sentences are unintelligible and you often use words outside of their meaning. At best you seem frustrated, stubborn, and arrogant. But really it just paints a picture of a guy who can’t really deal with anything. The same incompetent man the nation watched get evicted last summer. He sues his employers and fights with his family… and that’s about it. Oh yeah the storage locker of crap which costs ten times what you are worth -just to what? keep storing it? Wow I thought lotto tickets were a waste.
A tattoo on your forehead that just says “Don’t Trust” would be less life crushing than this pity-me martyr-party blog. The Micheal Rotondo that google knows is an awful person. It seems if you leveraged your 15 minutes to do some type of charity, awareness, or outreach work you’d be flying high right now. Talk about ‘effect’?, effect someone positively for once, it’s amazing trust me. If shining a light on injustice is what you desire, well move on and make something of it. So many people in this world have been treated unfairly and you are not one of them. This blog is the ravings of a bratty boy who can’t grow up.
If They don’t have one already, I personally think you qualify for a full restraining order from every member of your son’s family. I read most of what is posted on here elsewhere, and when you started to mess with her teenage daughter people went nuts. Trust me she loathes you completely. A sewing machine??? GO AWAY!
Why are you hurting this family!!? -Find some sort of happiness external to this struggle with your son’s mother. That’s your only hope now.
I hope your Christmas was okay,
Jack G. Theodore
I’m denying your claims made in this post. Thank you for your comment.
The courts have deemed it appropriate that you lose visitation rights with your son. Whether or not you agree with that is irrelevant. Either you satisfy the courts by finding out what you need to do to regain visitation rights – and you do those things – or you and his mother figure out a way to work it out. From what I’m seeing, the latter solution seems not to be feasible at this time, and you are not in a position to make demands or to dictate terms. If I am missing something, here, I am certainly open to changing my stance..
Ok. Thank you for your comment.